This past fall my guilty pleasure was watching Logo TV's reality dating show Finding Prince Charming. I couldn't wait to learn more about these guys who were vying for "Prince Charming," while seeing who would get sent home, and who would stay week after week. I definitely had my favorites and last month I got to interview one of them, Finding Prince Charming's runner-up Brandon Kneefel, and now, I get to interview another favorite suitor of mine, Sam Provenzano.
Sam definitely caught my eye from the moment he walked into the house. He was cute, charming, and had those mid-western good looks, which always makes my heart melt. I was rooting for Sam from the start! But as the series unfolded, so did Sam, and we were shown a different side of Sam. Despite his outbursts, I still cheered for Sam. I didn't want him to be affected by the drama in the house, but despite my wants, the camera was showing what it showed. Like most, I wondered if what we were seeing was the real Sam or an edited version made for television. So, I took to social media and reached out to Sam. Thankfully, Sam answered my call and I got to know just who Sam Provenzano really is!
I'm so excited to show you the man behind the drama. What I discovered through this interview was a man who's constantly learning about himself, is very self-assured and does amazing things to help people get fit with his company "Right Fit For You!" The camera only shows one side of you, but if you look at the other angles, you see the parts that make a person who they truly are.
1. This past fall you were featured on Logo TV's reality dating show Finding Prince Charming. What initially made you want to be on the show? You know, I really just wanted to do something different and fun! I thought it would be a great chance to not only try to find a significant other, but it could be a great way to make some new friends and just do something different. I never thought they would choose me, but they did. I had an amazing journey on and off the camera during my time.
2. What were your first thoughts upon entering the house and meeting everyone? Who do you still keep in touch with? I thought they actually casted an amazing group of guys from across the country with different backgrounds and personalities. Every single guy they chose had a great story behind them and each suitor brought something unique and special to the table. I was definitely a bit intimidated I guess you can say, and that's rare for me. I still keep in touch with the majority of the guys. I'd say I am closest to Paul, Chad, Jasen and Robby. I was the only guy from Chicago, so it's a bit hard to stay in contact with everyone, but I travel to LA a lot for work. I recently hung-out with Charlie and Robby while I was there. A few weeks ago, Paul stayed at my place in Chicago and we attended the Human Rights Campaign Gala together and had a blast.
I haven't spoken to Dillon, Brandon or Eric since the reunion, but wish them well. I ran into Robert recently but we didn't speak. There's no love lost between the two of us that's for sure.
3. As the season unfolded, a different side of you was shown a lot more then the man we met in the first episode. You were constantly being shown losing your temper or getting into arguments/fights with some of the other housemates. I was very surprised to see this side of you, considering what I saw in the premiere episode. Do you have short temper in real life or did you just get a bum rap in how your scenes were edited together? You know, I do have a short temper and a strong personality...but that's only one side of the many sides to me. I'm not going to be "that guy" that blames the way I was portrayed because of editing. Producers have a job to do and a story to tell and they are filming 24/7 -- they can't capture everything in a 60-minute episode...it's not the "Sam Show" (though that would be fun LoL). I didn't really get comfortable in the house and felt a bit isolated at times from some of the guys. I had some fantastic moments, sad moments and yes, even angry and bad moments...but it is what it is.
4. At one point, things got so out of control with Dillon, that during your argument, you went as far as to spit on him. Why do you feel you and Dillon clashed so much? Can you take us through what was going through your mind leading up to the moment you actually spit on him? After spitting on him, you immediately left the house. Why did you leave right away instead of staying and trying to work things out? After Robby and I had our "fix your dress" moment I apologized and we moved on, but Dillon kept bringing it up and saying that I was offensive to "more feminine" gays etc. when in actuality I thought Robby was just putting on a display for the cameras when he came into the house. I was just questioning his authenticity. Was I wrong about Robby? Yes. It was foolish of me to judge him the way I did...but it happened, I apologized and moved on...Dillon couldn't.
Dillon also had a way of getting under my skin minutes before I was going to have some time with Robert. He did so at the pool party, before the beach, before my date with Robert and Justin and minutes before our altercation. Looking back, I have to give him "kudos" for actually having the ability to get me to such a dark place— most aren’t able to, but when you are stuck in a house with nowhere to go — it gets to you. He poked, poked and poked and me and I reacted. Not terribly proud of the reaction, but what did he expect? Me to just take his barrage of attacks? That’s not going to happen. Do I regret spitting on him? Yes. Am I sorry for it? Yes. But I'm not going to crucify myself over it. It's done. As I mentioned at the Reunion, I wasn't into Robert, I had a guy that was constantly attacking me so I thought it was just time to go. No one made me leave. In my mind and heart, my time was up.
5. When you look back at your time on Finding Prince Charming, what do you think about? What do you wish you would have done differently, if anything? I wish I would have sat back and observed a bit more. I think that's what Brandon and Eric did so well the first few episodes. They kind of just stayed in the background while everyone else did their thing. Then again, staying in the background isn't who I am. I probably could have stayed on much, much longer if I would have treated it as more of a competition. But I also had some great moments and met some amazing people. I learned a lot about myself there and overall it's cool to be part of the first season of hopefully a successful franchise. Season 2 is already in the works... and maybe they'll do a Bachelor's in Paradise/Finding Prince Charming All Star Edition. I'd love to be a part of that!
6. Let's touch on the Finding Prince Charming reunion special. I was so excited for this special because I was like, "This is going to be great! Sam's going to get his chance to tell his side of the story, but again, the only scenes of you that were really shown, were you arguing with the other housemates. You just didn't get a break. What do you wish you could have said on the reunion that you didn't get a chance to? I was actually very happy with how I was portrayed on the Reunion. I did my best to apologize to Dillon, but he just wasn't having it. At one point, when I was trying again to explain my side of things and apologize to Dillon, he actually got out a book...yes a book...and started reading it as I was talking. It was disrespectful, but he's young and you know, it happened. The only thing I wanted to do was genuinely apologize to him and I tried. Not everyone accepts apologies that are thrown their way and that's OK-- life very much goes on. I think Dillon is driven, handsome and has a lot of offer. I wish him well and hope we can get past all this someday.
I'm also very active on Twitter (@samseles) and other social media, like most of the cast, and I definitely regret being a little hard on my perception of Eric. I did think he came off as boring and I said that many times online and in other interviews. However, when looking back on everything, I don't know Eric and to poke at him for being boring wasn't very nice. I actually sent him a beautiful bouquet of flowers a few weeks ago with a note from me apologizing and wanting to get together, but unfortunately he never responded. I tried to offer an olive branch, but he obviously isn't having it and that's okay.
7. I don't want this interview to solely focus on how you portrayed on the show. I want everyone to see other sides of you. One of things I found out about you that really impressed me was that you run a company called "Right Fit For You" which helps people find the perfect Personal Trainer for their lifestyle. While you gear it towards the LGBT community, it's a service for anyone. What made you want to start this business? What has been the most rewarding part about this venture for you? "Right Fit for You" (www.rightfitforyou.com) is all about ensuring a comfortable personal training atmosphere for the LGBT community, from beginning to end. Every Personal Trainer profiled on "Right Fit For You" will not only will help you get into shape, but will also identify as LGBT or as a straight ally to the community. Because the client-trainer relationship is an intimate one, hiring a trustworthy person is crucial. At the end of the day, if you aren’t comfortable and can’t truly be yourself with your personal trainer, you’ll have a lot tougher of a time hitting your fitness goals. As soon as you visit our site, you know you’ll find a personal trainer who just gets you. That’s priceless. I like to compare it to living in a gay-friendly part of town or going to a gay bar or club on the weekend. At the end of the day, many of us choose to live in LGBT-Friendly areas and hangout at gay bars and establishments because we just feel comfortable and safe there. That's what "Right Fit for You" is all about. It's a great feeling to know that I created something that is beneficial to the LGBTQ community. I'm very proud of it. We are just in the Chicagoland area right now, but plan on expanding to new markets soon.
8. What are some reasons you would encourage people to get a personal trainer and get fit? Who are your fitness heroes? There are so many reasons why I encourage people to get a personal trainer and get fit. Here are a few:
- They can help keep stay accountable and motivated: It's tough getting motivated to workout sometimes and by hiring a trainer they can really help you stay focused and motivated throughout your journey.
- They can take your fitness level to new heights, especially if you are an avid exerciser but have hit the inevitable plateau: A trainer can teach you new workout routines and also ensure you are doing the right things in and out of the gym to hit your goals.
- They can help people who have never worked out before do so in a safe way: It's always a good idea to start training with someone who knows what they are doing.
- It's a fact - feeling good makes you look good, and vice versa: Not only can your personal trainer help you achieve your health and fitness goals, they provide you with positive feedback on your performance and bolster your confidence to take on new challenges.
9. Like you, I'm very into fitness. On "Call Me Adam" I have a section called One Percent Better, where through my own fitness commitment, I try to encourage people to improve their own life by one percent every day. What is something in your life that you want to improve by one percent better every day? For me, it’s being able to live in the moment. A lot of times, I tend to think back to the past and think "What If…" or I tend to think too far into the future. I’d like to live more in the moment. I think that’s definitely a flaw of mine and a flaw of a lot of people out there. If I can improve that by 1% each day I’d be a much happier and more content person.
10. What is something about Sam Provenzano that you want people to know that you haven't revealed yet? When are you at your happiest? There are some people out there that I meet who automatically assume that I’m full of myself or something since I did a reality show or that I view myself as some sort of celebrity. That can’t be further from the truth. I don’t see myself as any type of star. I’m very humble, driven and I’m also very hard on myself. By watching the show, some think I’m an ultra-aggressive hothead. I’m not...I’m just like any other guy in his early 30’s who is learning more and more about himself and the world every day. But people will have their opinions of me and that’s fine…I’m not out doing any type of damage control. I am who I am.
I’m most happy when I am surrounded by those who love me – especially my family and my 3 nephews and niece. I live vicariously through them. Children can find the bright side of things and happiness in just about anything…it’s something we can all learn from.
Sam is a 31-year-old Chicagoan who started his own fitness company from the ground up. Sam is very close with his family—a no-brainer because, after all, he is Italian. This straightforward sweetie is a late bloomer after coming out at 22. He may be good with dating apps, but he’s ready for his first real relationship.